Since I am not the one carrying these embryos around I do not have any say as to whether J does an HPT or not. It didn't even occur to me until we were getting ready to leave my RE's office. J said she was going to start testing within a few days. As most of you know, with all three of my IVF cycles I NEVER did an HPT. I just held out to the last second, hoping, praying that I would get a positive phone call. After 5 years of trying to get pregnant and months and months of ovulation kits and HPTs I was not willing to spend the money on even more disappointment. I have heard that once you get that second pink line it is a huge rush...obviously it would be. That is a 'fix' I have never experienced, so for me it is just a waste of money and time. J on the other hand has had that magical moment twice. (She has two beautiful daughters.)
So, now I debate with myself. Of course I want to know the second she gets that pink line...but if it is nearing the date for the bloodtest--which will be 14dp5dt--and I haven't heard anything I will have to assume that it is still negative. When I had my 5 day transfer I only had to wait 10 days so I may complain to the office. We will see. If she gets a pink line I will call them up and demand that bloodtest on day 10. I want numbers! This is a sticky situation.
My good friend suggested that I go to her house every morning starting Saturday and demand a urine sample. Then I could go out to the car and test it myself! That made me laugh so hard. Can you imagine? (This friend also got back her first BETA today with 109!!! Congrats, K!)
So, what do you all think I should do? Should I hold out like I have in the past and tell her I don't want to know? It is hard for me to think of her knowing before me at all, let alone having to keep that information to herself. Should I tell her I want to know the daily details? Should I have her not tell me until it is REALLY positive? Is a faint line worth telling me about??? I have not had hope in so long. This really could work. The more I think about that the more afraid I become of not hearing anything once I know the HPTs have started. Any advice?
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O.K.- I am a very impatient person in some situations so my first choice would be to demand the urine sample daily. :)
Oh Yikes. I don't know the answer to that one!
My IM didn't know I was testing, she assumed that we were waiting until the beta. But she never told me not to test...so I did. And I was able to surprise her with the video.(did you want to see it?)
Hmmm. Since you know that your surro is testing...it depends on you.
Like you said, since you know that she is going to test, you are going to think it is negative if she says nothing. That is hard.
UGH! I guess I would ask her to tell you the minute something appears on the test, almost as if you were the one testing. I couldn't bear waiting and wondering what was going on.
Do you live close enough that if it IS a faint positive that you can run over and see? The very first ones are....
All I know is that I am hoping for you guys. Hope, hope, hope is going out to you two.
Bring on the Pee sticks and tell her you want to know as soon as she gets a positive, but you don't want to know if she's testing. Okay that's confusing. Tell her if she is testing, you don't want to know, but if she gets a positive to call you ASAP. Hoping so badly for you that she does get a positive. I can't wait, so excited.
I agree with Kimmer. Though I must advise you that this recommendation comes from a serious POAS-addict. I used to buy them in bulk over the internet and start testing at 6dpo just for fun. It got old after way too many negatives, but I couldn't help myself and kept doing it anyway. I'm excited to see how all of this goes for you & I'm keeping everything crossed for some good news soon.
Yikes, quite a conundrum! I agree with Kimmer, maybe you could tell her that while you don't want to know when/if she's testing, if she does do it and get a postitive, to call ASAP! That or a daily check in...which with my obsessivess would probably be what I'd do!
Wow, thanks for all of your responses. Unfortunately I know she is going to start testing tomorrow (if she hasn't already.) I am going to jump every time the phone rings and every day that goes by in silence will seem like an eternity. Dee-Yes, I want to see the video!
Kim keep us posted on the testing. I know this waiting is awful mama but just keep yourself really busy for the next couple of days. Hee hee maybe that'll help. God Bless.
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